21 Aug 09 Mental strength and resilience – Black and White

Black and WhiteIn to maintain our mission, mental toughness and mental strength, we need to look at and challenge errors in our thinking. This defect "are referred to as inferences from cognitive therapy. Assumptions, the conclusions are what we think is happening, what has happened or will happen. Are statements of what we believe are the facts and go beyond the obvious immediate and observable. You may be right or wrong, is not useful or very useful, rational or irrational. Consequences are often serious distortion of reality. This article focuses on one of the most common form is unnecessary for the above conclusions, "Black and White" black thinkingAs brought in the name, and the thought occurs when we think of white things, or as one extreme or the other, without recognize or polarized, taking into account the possibility of a gray area or medium. The chief weakness is always right. If you do not love me, you hate me. If you are not smart, then you stupid. If you are not thin, is so thick. If not for us, then you are against us. If it is true, then it is a lieAll or nothingStay or goRight or wrong "yes" or nogood or evilExcellent or awfulLove or hateWinners or losersHere is an example of every day. A student can receive a check of 95% or more taken as evidence that he is intelligent, and a ratio of 85% to prove that he is brainless and thick. As you can see from this example is in black and white thinking in those of us with perfectionist traits common and can lead to feelings of inferiority. Thinking in black and white can also lead to anxiety and low self-esteem. For example, if we are able at a social event and someone who does not find attractive to make contact with eyes, we are directly adverse to the conclusion that there are unpopular and ugly. However, when you smile, you can switch to the opposite result and see this as evidence that there are desirable and useful. Sometimes when we are stressed and emotionally overwhelmed, you can fall into thinking in black and white. If we are afraid, and not thinking clearly and to discuss, it is possible for a "both … Or a solution …"-. This allows us a quick relief from our misery and complete our temporary discomfort, but it may be possible to lose with a flexible, practical and useful solution. This is self-defeating to think that we used to get frustrated as children, when our thoughts were less developed. When stressed, people often step back and make their own toys out the pram. " For example: "If you do not have coach designer, I do not want everything," "When I get to the finish line, I'm not playing … And 'my ball, and I'm going home "" If you do not call me, do not bother me, "I would like my stapler, or can not," "Who is my chair, I go" ; I have my cup of coffee or have none at all. . . Boo Hoo. . . sob, sob. . . Whine Whine. . . "If this sounds like the office, my information is below. In these times of global recession and uncertainty, it is understandable that some people can use too much and grieved. However, we need to fight again for a simplified and polarized thinking. In a recession, we need to think about the progressive thought regressive. You may also notice that they were in black and white thinking is used in cults are alternatives given and free thought is not allowed. Stay remain flexible, creative, customization and surviveRegardsPhil Pearl

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